Break Free from Self-Sabotage: How to Work with Resistance Through the Felt Sense

Self-sabotage is one of the biggest obstacles coaches, therapists, and personal growth seekers face. Despite gaining knowledge and skills, many still find themselves hesitating or freezing when it’s time to take action. Why?

The answer lies not in your mindset alone but in your body’s felt sense the subtle, somatic signals that arise from past experiences, especially trauma or emotional overwhelm.

What is Self-Sabotage?

Self-sabotage is an unconscious survival mechanism. When you attempt to make positive changes, your nervous system may resist because it perceives new actions as threats. This internal conflict between your conscious goals and unconscious fears often causes hesitation, procrastination, or anxiety.

What is the Felt Sense?

The felt sense is your body’s internal signal system. It’s how your body communicates emotions and memories before your mind even processes them. Ignoring this felt sense can lead to deeper disconnection and more resistance.

How to Work With Somatic Resistance and Self-Sabotage

1. Notice the Felt Sense
   Pause and identify where you feel resistance in your body tightness, heaviness, or discomfort.
2. Create Safety
   Use grounding techniques and affirmations to help your nervous system feel safe before taking action. (also read this)
3. Start at Your Edge
   Move gradually, working within your comfort zone instead of forcing extreme change.
4. Reconnect with Your Why
   Feel your purpose and vision in your body to strengthen motivation.
5. Use Compassionate Curiosity
   Explore your resistance without judgment and allow sensations to be felt without rushing to fix them.

Why Working Somatically Matters in Coaching

Traditional cognitive approaches may overlook the body’s role in resistance. Somatic coaching techniques help clients process emotions and trauma stored in the body, unlocking new possibilities for growth and healing.

Final Thoughts

Self-sabotage is not a failure it’s a signal from your body that change needs to happen gently and with awareness. Embracing your felt sense allows you to move forward with confidence and ease.

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